Think Before You Speak

     

     Have you ever had someone point out a "flaw" that you never really thought about to much? Has anyone ever pointed out a "flaw" that you already knew about but hoped no one would ever point out? If you answered no to any of those questions then I'm guessing you did not go to school. As much as I wish that we could all go about our lives not having to experience the cruelty of someone’s words but in reality it is hard to escape. Even if you do not classify a comment as bullying it can still do a lot of damage, especially to someone who is young.

      You may be thinking "what so now I basically can't speak because it might hurt someone’s feelings"? My answer to you is no. Just before you say something that involves someone’s appearance stop and ask yourself these questions:

• Would I want someone saying this to me?
• Is whatever I want to say really worth upsetting someone?
• Would they already know about what I’m going to point out? (believe it or not most people own a mirror)
• Is what I’m going to point out, out of their control? (that is the worst when someone points out something you can't change)

     The point of this post is just to help people realize that saying certain things like calling someone ugly or fat can really affect people and I know firsthand. If you have ever had someone say something to you always remember that they are most likely hurting themselves. But to break the cycle of that behavior I give two compliments for every insult I get. You never know how your compliment can change someone’s life and it becomes a chain reaction. Try to never let anyone make you feel insecure because no one is perfect (even Beyonce has under eye circles). Just because your definition of beautiful is different from someone else’s does not mean that there is not beauty in everyone. Always remember to think before you speak and that someone finds you beautiful.

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